Why is Vulnerability a Difficult Topic for Christians?

In a world where independence is highly valued, it can be challenging to admit that we are going through situations. We don't want to feel like we're a burden to others and instead, keep those worries buried inside of us. When others ask how we're doing, we usually just respond with "good" out of habit. It's even gotten to the point where people no longer ask how we're doing because they genuinely want to know, but rather because it's simply seen as being polite. Why is it that we can be vulnerable with God while dwelling in His presence, yet completely reject this idea when speaking to others? Do we even invite people to express their dilemmas or are we too busy talking about ourselves to consider listening to them first?

Humility and Vulnerability

While it may feel uncomfortable to admit that we're even struggling with something in the first place, I hope you can find peace in knowing that sharing your vulnerabilities can help encourage others to do so too. I've heard people say that they're not the "most perfect Christian" which tells me that many already have this preconceived notion that our salvation is based on the good things we've done. However, in 2 Corinthians 12:9, Paul shares an essential truth: “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’” This verse emphasizes that recognizing our weaknesses allows God's power to manifest in our lives. It takes a place of humility to realize that our vulnerabilities can help others. While there may, unfortunately, be people who look at our problems and judge our characters, 1 Samuel 16:7 says, But the LORD said to Samuel, 'Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart" Our walk with God shouldn't be used as a tool to make ourselves look better. Instead, it should express how much we desperately need God and through our vulnerabilities, His name will be lifted high. By admitting our faults and vulnerabilities, an examination of our heart postures is necessary. Ask yourself these questions:

♡ Why is it hard for me to admit to others I'm not ok?

♡ How can I listen intentionally to the situations of those who surround me so that I can pray for their vulnerabilities?

♡ Why am I so worried about how others will perceive me if I admit that I'm struggling with this particular sin?

Furthermore, vulnerability is especially crucial in our relationships. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 states, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor; if either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” For us to do that, we have to be willing to step out of our comfort zone, and I know that this can be hard for those of us who hate confrontation. It requires us to let go of pride and fear of appearing needy. The fact that God encourages us to do this shows just how necessary it is to remove our feelings and instead, obey. I know that this is easier said than done, but building small habits to make sure we can even get to that point requires an intense focus on our intentions.

Jesus: The Best Example

If there's anything we're struggling with, just know that Jesus has most likely been faced with the same issues. While he is present during Lazarus's death, he doesn't hold back on how he feels to prove that he's unaffected by the conditions of his life, but instead expresses his vulnerability (John 11:35). Another example is shown through his deep distress while at the garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:38-39). While God didn't remove the situation, Jesus was able to receive peace and strength that only God can give us. These moments reveal that acknowledging our emotions can even deepen our relationship with God and others. Even while Jesus cried for Lazarus, this act of sorrow shows us that expressing sorrow, although it's seen as a vulnerability, is a natural response and that we're allowed to be comfortable in our weaknesses.

Vulnerability in Our Daily Lives

To embrace vulnerability in everyday life, we don't have to share everything with everyone. It’s about being real with ourselves before God and those we trust. Maybe you lost the ability to trust others because they betrayed you or you're afraid they will judge you. However, first admitting the fact that you need God's will over yours will help you build confidence in this area. I know that I've struggled with letting others know how I'm feeling and trusting that they won't share that information. We know that following Jesus's example is severely challenging and because we are mere humans, we are also very weak. Still, Jesus, while being fully human and fully God endured moments of sorrow and pain. Even then, it never took away the supernatural strength that God gave him. I hope we can find peace in knowing that we can also ask for help when we go through any problem. Through those problems, God's name will be glorified.

What has helped me was writing in a prayer journal. I try to write at least one page per day and reflect on the prayer that I made. This gives me more confidence to be able to share my dilemmas and I hope it will do the same for you too!